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Friday, January 03, 2025

Preserving Patient Dignity (Formerly Patient Modesty) Volume 132

 Let's hope this Volume 132 can continue with the needed emotional and intellectual support.  .Maurice

68 Comments:

At Friday, January 03, 2025 6:23:00 PM, Blogger Maurice Bernstein, M.D. said...

Welcome Aboard.. I think the system for Volume 132 is working. ..Maurice

 
At Friday, January 03, 2025 7:46:00 PM, Blogger Maurice Bernstein, M.D. said...

I hope this Volume 132 is working properly. ..Maurice

 
At Saturday, January 04, 2025 4:41:00 AM, Anonymous Jeff said...

I’m responding on my end to acknowledge the new volume and was intrigued about the request of what the response would be from that urology clinic if a male was requested for the catheter replacement?
Would they accommodate or end up with a deer in the headlights expression.
Inquiring minds would love to know!

 
At Saturday, January 04, 2025 7:23:00 PM, Blogger Maurice Bernstein, M.D. said...

The valid response to Jeff is that there are virtually
no male LVNs in existence and if it is, as is the usual
situation, you will not be able to properly and safely
insert a Foley catheter into the bladder, you must have
the skills and caution awareness of a medical provider which will
be that LVN. It is just common current fact.."nothing more and nothing
less. And I know from experience and observation, male patients are
accepting the necessity of the insertion by a trained and experienced LVN.
There are some things in medical management where the patient has no
superiority to the skills of those in the medical system and every male
patient has to face this fact. Otherwise complications can occur which
puts the individual's life at risk. Of course you can't inspect the female LVN's mind at the time of the insertion but what is important that the Foley catheter is being replaced quickly and medically safely for the patient.
And my lengthy experience as a patient with women LVN is that is the
literal fact. ..Maurice.

 
At Saturday, January 04, 2025 7:25:00 PM, Blogger NTT said...

Good evening.

Hope everyone is well.

I'm with Jeff on the catheter issue.

It's not about her as a professional or her abilities. It's the fact she's a female. Someone I've never met nor have I been with on an intimate level.

I have a mate that I took a vow with & she will be the only female that handles me much less sees me intimately period.

When I was single, having a female healthcare worker take care of my intimate medical needs if needed I would have had no 2nd thoughts about it.

Whether they like it or not, the american healthcare system must adapt to the changing times.

Men are no longer mindless bulls they can tell to leave your dignity & privacy at the door or don't bother asking for help.

If they refuse to adapt, then the blood of countless men whom they forced to walk away from the care they needed because of the way the healthcare system treated them, will be solely on their hands & they won't be able to lie their way out of it.

Males aren't asking for the world. They are asking for equality, compassion, empathy, integrity, & advocacy. The same thing they freely give their female patients.

That video on catheter removal should be SOP in every doctor's office & medical facility in this country.

If it's medically safe to do, every patient should be offered the chance to do it themselves in private.
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Time for the healthcare system to wake up & embrace change where procedures are concerned.

 
At Sunday, January 05, 2025 8:00:00 AM, Anonymous Jeff said...

Thank you NTT for validating my whole point in this matter! For all the years this blog has been running I think we can all agree to the need for sterility when placing a urinary catheter ! Doctor Bernstein it seems you are placing all the emphasis on the medical mechanics of the procedure while side stepping what I thought was the whole theme of this blog. MEDICAL PATIENT DIGNITY and how can we receive it? Although I have issues with unnecessary exposure which I have experienced on more than one occasion I thought that by now it would be Abundantly clear that the main issue is the gender of the person obtaining access to your most intimate areas! I have heard from multiple men on various sites that prefer women for intimate care and the only reason for that is they see what is being done to them through a sexual lens.and it is for the same reasons that other men do not want that kind of care by a woman when it causes you to feel embarrassed/ emasculated/disrespected and about a dozen other emotional words that could be chosen.
What has been expressed here for years is CHOICE or the lack there of and in many cases a total lack of transparency.
How do they justify causing someone to be triggered by their treatment because of underlying trauma in their past whether it be male or female and apply ambush tactics. The alternative is you don’t receive treatment because they are unwilling to accommodate and refuse to try. This is the price we all pay when an Industry has been hijacked by the greater need to make money and not so much to heal and do no harm

 
At Sunday, January 05, 2025 10:21:00 AM, Blogger Maurice Bernstein, M.D. said...

As an active male physician in the past and now retired since the beginning of
2021, I did, since before and still now, look to what is in the best immediate clinical value to the patient and look who is in the very best clinical value to
provide the essential service to the patient. Of course, I cannot look into the current active mind of the person rendering the service or the patient. No one can..but to me it is the results, the clinical outcome, the medical or surgical results of that is being performed on the patient. Every patient has their own individual rights and have every right to express and follow their wishes but it would be unprofessional not to perform clinical/surgical care on a patient who is symptomatically unconscious unless if clinically untreatable or if family member surrogates order to the physician to avoid attempts to begin medical/surgical treatment under the patient's current and expected permanent mental status. Every conscious patient has their right to define who is to treat them if the patient requires that treatment.
I hope this explains the basic principles in ethical medical/surgical practice. ..Maurice.

 
At Monday, January 06, 2025 6:01:00 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

I am also confirming access to the latest volume and will soon respond the the latest comments by Jeff, NTT, and Dr. Bernstein.

EM

 
At Tuesday, January 07, 2025 2:57:00 AM, Anonymous Jeff said...

Dr. Bernstein you made a statement that this whole topic hinges on and I quote

Every patient has their own individual rights and have every right to express and follow their wishes.

You are absolutely correct every patient has the right to express their wishes and that is where it all ends. At that point to follow your wishes will more than likely leave you with the choice to except the procedure in the manner that they chose to deliver it or they will show you the door

I guess the moral of the story is wishes are like noses, everybody’s got one but rights are a completely different story

 
At Tuesday, January 07, 2025 8:51:00 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Dr. B., I hear and comprehend what you are saying in your last post but unfortunately far too many medical personnel do not either hear, understand, or both. Yes, we cannot look into the minds of others but we certainly can guess as to what their intentions are by their actions. And yes, patients who are unconscious and no next of kin available then treatment is given. That is acceptable but there again it is how the treatment is given is what I am concerned with as are many others here on the blog. We know that most of the time and even admitted to by a doctor (https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC8935547/ that patients are generally unnecessarily exposed during code blues and that he realized this and failed to act. This doctor said, "However, why assume respecting modesty and restoring blood flow are mutually exclusive?" Why indeed? He went on to say, "Rarely do I leave a code, regardless of the outcome, believing I did everything I could. Sometimes I don’t have the courage to try to cover the patient. Sometimes I don’t think about it until later. But by preserving their modesty without compromising the efficacy of their treatment, we can better honor the trust they place in us. Rather than wondering what they would have chosen if they only knew, we can ensure that they do know, and then treat them with the dignity they expect and deserve." So why do we keep coming across stories of patients being exposed unnecessarily and patients being forced to have intimate "care" given by a gender or even a person they do not feel comfortable with for that purpose? Why do we especially have female caregivers saying--I've seen it all before? - You have nothing different/special. - etc. Are they not taught that patients have the right to bodily dignity? Are they not taught that yes a patient being unnecessarily exposed by them is not the prime focus--it is about what the patient wants and feels comfortable with? Why are they not taught to deliver humane, compassionate care? What would happen in today's world if a male caregiver came in alone to a female patient who didn't want his care and he said you have nothing I haven't seen before? I bet we would see that in a newspaper. Female medical providers for too long have successfully been able to sexually discriminate against male patients. Again, I understand that you, Dr. B., believe in what you say and have taught but you are not the problem but rather it is those who do not follow your same principles. And yes, I do realize that some do not have an issue with whatever gender delivers their care but again this does not justify in what I am generally talking about--the need of medical personnel to unnecessarily exposed patients. JR

 
At Tuesday, January 07, 2025 11:04:00 AM, Blogger Biker said...

Usually the answers that patients get on forums like Quora to matters of patient privacy & dignity are either that it doesn't matter or that it is an either/or issue. It is as if they believe a patient cannot both receive good care at a clinical level and be treated in a respectful manner. They seem to think that asking for both is asking for too much.

Because I am well experienced in female staff being far more prone to needlessly exposing me than are male staff, I ask for male staff when that is an option. I accept the reality of healthcare demographics meaning that usually there isn't any male staffing, and I'm not going to deny myself healthcare on that account. My primary issue is the routine needless exposure, be it in the form of extent, duration, or audience. And audience includes chaperones which to me are at the top of needless exposure list.

 
At Thursday, January 09, 2025 9:32:00 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

https://www.nj.com/hudson/2024/12/jersey-city-doctor-charged-with-sexually-assaulting-patient.html This article should send up so red flags for those on this blog. An 88yr old male doctor sexually abusing/assaulting a male patient during 2 different visits is the main theme. First, IMO the doctor was too old to be practicing medicine. Secondly, it once again proves that same sex care is not safe or without its problems. Cindy and I do our best to inform/educate patients about good touch/bad touch in medical encounters. We have done numerous shows on what should not happen during a medical encounter. If you read the article be sure to scroll downwards as there are more cases of sexually inappropriate medical encounters listed. JR

 
At Thursday, January 09, 2025 3:30:00 PM, Anonymous Jeff said...

JR since the horrifying humiliating experience, I had with open-heart surgery combined with other humiliations placed upon me in other surgical settings always at the hands of women. In recent years I’ve been digging into my past specifically childhood through the help of a therapist. Only to find out piece by piece of multiple incidents of blatant humiliation fostered on me by women of Authority. I have come to understand why some of the treatment that I received in a medical setting felt like more of the same disrespect and humiliation being placed on me by women of Authority (and what they did WAS disrespectful ) the deep wounds and scars left on me in my early developmental years by what I would classify as cruel women, all of that lay dormant in me throughout my adult life until I got introduced to the medical world and it manifested into one of the most traumatic triggering experiences of my life. That is why I focus and zero in on women stripping me naked and handling my genitals.
You have clearly and accurately described on many occasions the differences between what motivates female versus male medical professionals to violate patients. I believe that almost all literal sexual violations that involve an actual sex act are committed by men and men depending on their sexual orientation can will and do violate both sexes. Women on the other hand are generally motivated by other reasons and are much more clandestine in their approach and operating on different motives they-usualy pivot around power and the pleasure some of them achieve by watching a man turn red in the face and seeing how much humiliation they can inflict on a man without ever losing that persona of a true professional. This is not the case for most of the people in the medical profession. The hard part for a patient (actually impossible) is telling the good from the bad. Is this close to the way you see it?

In my case with my experience and background it doesn’t matter because a woman for me in that setting will never cease to be a woman of authority with all the power over my vulnerability.
Intimacy with a woman for me doesn’t happen like that although they claim there is nothing sexually intimate about it I beg to differ. All you have to do is read some of the Dictionary descriptions of what intimate touch is . When they speak of the erogenous zone ! Is the hospital an erogenous free zone ? Or is that achieved with a pill or an injection?
Sorry for being so sarcastic but none of this is that hard to understand or figure out

 
At Friday, January 10, 2025 7:14:00 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Jeff, I completely understand because my husband no longer females involved in his care period unless he is fully clothed. Until he was sexually assaulted/abused, he didn't have that issue. Although he didn't like it, he tolerated it like so many men do because they feel they have no choice if they want to receive healthScare services. Even though I am female, I would also say that women in authority do have axes to grind. They especially love grinding their axes on men but make no mistake they will also harm other women too. Women get by with abuse more than men because women can hide the abuse over the falsehood that women are nurturing, compassionate, etc. and this holds especially true for women in the medical field. I have found that while people will talk about male medical providers in a negative manner, they are less likely to do so about a female provider. Yes, men are more likely to act in a sexual manner but that is changing and women are becoming more and more sexual although like you so well described many women still do their harm for different reason.
I just want to make sure those who are seeking same gender care realize it is not the cure all as it also presents unique harm situations which is why I preach/highlight no unnecessary exposure. And yes, since it is your body you get to decide how you feel. The "naked" experience isn't about what the medical personnel think or feel but rather should only be viewed from the patient's perspective as they are the naked one. I have read so many articles abt medical students having to become used to seeing patients naked but where are the classes for the patients as they are really the ones who matter? JR

 
At Friday, January 10, 2025 10:57:00 AM, Blogger Maurice Bernstein, M.D. said...

As a former first and second year medical student instructor for "Introduction to Clinical Medicine", my view to the students and the view of the other instructors was that these male and female students must attend and follow the privacy issues presented by their patient who accepted their presence. And the students obey. ..Maurice.

 
At Friday, January 10, 2025 11:25:00 AM, Blogger Biker said...

Dr. Bernstein, I hope you & yours & your home are far from the fires currently raging in LA. It staggers my imagination what I am seeing in the media.

Concerning Jeff's recent comments, I agree that men are far more often the ones who sexually assault, usually females but sometimes males too. Though it may seem that assaults by women have grown more frequent, I suspect that may be more a reflection of the legal system finally being willing to acknowledge it. If the steady stream of female teachers being arrested for statutory rape of their male Middle School & High School students is any indication, it seems that women are more assaulting minors than adults. However it could be that few men are willing to bring assault claims to authorities.

What men more commonly face is needless exposure by female healthcare staff. Some may just be poorly trained and unaware of what they are doing wrong. Some that are aware may be driven by the power dynamic that Jeff & JR mentioned; their enjoying the embarrassment of their male patients. If the patient is young, fit, and/or good looking, or if he is otherwise porn star material, the incentive might be basic voyeurism.

Just as male pedophiles found safe harbor in the priesthood & Boy Scouts for many years, female voyeurs & those on an anti-male powertrip still to this day can find safe harbor working in healthcare. This is almost always women below the physician level.

There are bad apples in every profession. The problem with healthcare is that they rarely weed out those bad apples.

 
At Saturday, January 11, 2025 2:16:00 PM, Anonymous Jeff said...

Biker you tied in a very good point with teachers and students, Priest and scout leaders and young boys all being places where pedophiles, voyeurs and sexual predators can hide in plain sight. What would make anyone think or believe that medical settings would be any different?
Patients are probably the most vulnerable of all! it just takes a lot more effort and education to be allowed in a position that gives you that much access. Even that is not necessarily true if you consider medical assistants and CNA’s that require very little training. And chaperones can be the receptionist with no training at all.
All of the examples given by Biker have one thing in common they are all positions of trust and Authority and the one that is afforded the most trust and the belief and claim that they would never treat anyone with anything other than the upmost respect and professionalism has been proven to not be true in many documented cases.
Many people refuse to believe they have been handled in a way that didn’t require the amount of exposure they receive but once you do how and who do you trust going forward?

 
At Sunday, January 12, 2025 5:20:00 AM, Anonymous Jeff said...

I just read an article that blew me away that everyone needs to read .
If you Google “ the legal and ethical imperative of explicit consent in intimate medical procedures” the article will come up

 
At Sunday, January 12, 2025 8:24:00 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Jeff,
https://aihc-assn.org/the-legal-and-ethical-imperative-of-explicit-consent-in-intimate-medical-procedures/
The author of this article, Shelby, is the wife of a man who sexually assaulted/abused during medical treatment. She and her husband have een on our radio show and she works closely with Misty. Shelby wrote another article that was published in Voices in Bioethics, November 2023. https://journals.library.columbia.edu/index.php/bioethics/article/view/11927 Shelby is another wife who is not going to passively allow her husband to be abuse while seeking medical treatment and she is also a survivor of medical sexual harm when she was a child. JR

 
At Sunday, January 12, 2025 10:32:00 AM, Anonymous Jeff said...

JR I remember when you had him on and I remember reading what happened to him. I didn’t Connect her name to his story . It is an excellent article and the issues that exist couldn’t have been spelled out any better. I got it from a site that I follow called #medical me too which obviously you are aware of.
Now that you pointed that out it all makes sense THANKS.

 
At Sunday, January 12, 2025 4:28:00 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Jeff, They used aliases as they were pursuing legal action at the time. JR

 
At Monday, January 13, 2025 1:01:00 PM, Blogger NTT said...

Good Afternoon:

Shelby Harriel beautifully explained the issue we face in both articles. It's too bad, the healthcare system isn't listening because state & federal government isn't forcing them to.

The state legislation to stop unauthorized pelvic & rectal exams was a start be they must take it further however, I know from talking to elected officials in my state, they don't have the spine to go up against the medical community & make more rules for them to follow. One rep told me just getting the pelvic law was like pulling teeth.

Oh well, the fight goes on.

A pleasant evening to all.

Regards,
NTT

 
At Tuesday, January 14, 2025 2:31:00 AM, Blogger Biker said...

NTT, and if legislators won't ban non-consented pelvic exams of unconscious women, anything and everything else many of us would like to see isn't likely to even warrant an initial discussion on their part. Change will only come from patients speaking as and when they deal with the healthcare system.

 
At Tuesday, January 14, 2025 9:59:00 AM, Blogger Maurice Bernstein, M.D. said...

There is no doubt in my mind that from a medical clinical viewpoint there is
an absolute value to the ventilation of information and personal perspective
which is written here on this "dignity" topic but on every other topic on
this Bioethics blog. It is both supportive or clearly informative to all the visitors to this many many year old blog. ..Maurice

 
At Tuesday, January 21, 2025 1:04:00 PM, Anonymous Reginald said...

Hello,

I'd like to relate what happened during my son's (age 52) recent hospital visit. I wheeled him in a wheel chair into a large room with six beds surrounded by curtains. I helped him onto a bed and, the nurse asked him to put on the gown. She said that only his shirt needed to be removed and, she closed the curtain. She asked if we were ready, opened the curtain and, said that I could sit in a chair near the bed. The doctor entered and spoke with my son re draining his abscesses. My son indicated that he was hoping for drains for the abscesses instead of just a one-time draining. The dr. said that he didn't think he had drains small enough and left to check. He found possible drains and, told my son that he would consult with my son's dr regarding them. After a short while, the dr returned to say that both doctors agreed to try the drains. The dr began prepping my son's back for the insertion of two drains for abscesses near my son's spine related to a previous back surgery. He lowered my son's pants a bit and placed a towel over a small portion of the top of my son's buttocks to (as the dr said) maintain his dignity. The dr readied an ultrasound unit and began the operation. He periodically asked my son how he (my son) was doing and, even asked me to turn off the lights that he didn't want to touch with his gloved hands. The doctor sutured the drains in place, gave the nurse instructions for my son and left.

I was astounded. The doctor actually listened to my son and allowed my son to voice his (my son's) requests. The dr actually agreed. I was not asked to leave. I did not gown. The dr was concerned for my son's dignity. I was treated as if I was an actual person. As we left, the nurse even thanked us for coming and wished us a nice rest of our day.

From what I've related, I'd suggest that hospital protocols need not be set in stone and, that patients and their caregivers can be treated with dignity and respect. However, finding the right hospital might be a challenge.

I hope that others here will have similar positive experiences.

Take care.

Reginald

 
At Thursday, January 23, 2025 2:25:00 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

You know to write the hospital admins about this. Wish they would teach other facilities this is how its done. With this kind of respect for patients id be glad to allow students. Cat

 
At Monday, February 03, 2025 5:45:00 AM, Blogger Biker said...

As folks here know, there are many possible reasons for feeling as we do about how healthcare is delivered. After more than a year of thinking about my reaction to an experience and then running a followup experiment of sorts I think I now understand what one of my drivers has been.

That prior experience was my not being embarrassed or self conscious with a female nurse's presence for a cystoscopy. I had always been somewhat embarrassed & self conscious previously with female nurses, but then this time I wasn't, and I didn't understand why. For several years I had male nurses but one wasn't available this time. The experience perplexed me, so this year I decided to not ask for a male nurse and see what happens, though I was hoping that if I had a female nurse it would be the same one from a year ago.

While waiting to be called I saw that they had a male nurse and almost went up to the desk to ask to be assigned to him, but then convinced myself to just take my chances. An older female nurse came for me, and I again found that I wasn't embarrassed or self conscious with her. It left me very perplexed but after thinking about what commonality there might have been last year and this, I realized what it was. Neither viewed me through a sexual lens.

How can I know this? A lifetime of being viewed that way. Starting at age 15 girls were throwing themselves at me and it continued in work settings, social settings, pretty much any setting, even in front of my wife. I learned how to react (or not react) in ways that wouldn't embarrass or encourage them. I always knew when it was happening and in non-healthcare settings I could control the situation because we were on even ground.

In healthcare settings it wasn't an even playing ground. I was undressed and powerless and they were dressed and in charge. I could tell when I was being viewed through a sexual lens, and it made me uncomfortable as I never wanted to be judged on my looks but rather intelligence & personality. Some would say it was a good problem to have but I was never fully comfortable with it.

Realizing that the commonality between last year's experience and then again this year was my not being viewed through a sexual lens was liberating, especially since I am now perhaps old enough that it isn't likely anyone working in healthcare will view me that way anymore. That said, next year I will go back to asking for male nurses to do my prep on account I know I will be comfortable with them.

 
At Friday, February 07, 2025 4:50:00 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

I think one root of the problem of male patients being treated badly in this instance is there isn't any accountability for the female staff embarrassing the male patients. It's much harder for a female to cover up feelings of humiliation and often will cry. A large ratio of the Healthcare workers aren't feeling sexually towards the patients but who ever set things up the way they are weren't doing anything out of pure or innocent motives. It was never a coincidence when most gynecologiss were male. It isn't a that the surveys limit what a patient can complain about.
My sister talked about how bad the staff was about violating her modesty to just whoever else happened to be around. Ok. This doesn't have to do with modesty but my sister was told she only had a year left. Her doctor was adamant about that. She ended up dying after 3 years. Just a couple of weeks ago. My question is did she die of Cancer or the Cancer treatmentc JF

 
At Saturday, February 08, 2025 3:30:00 AM, Blogger NTT said...

Good morning.

I read your comment Biker.

You said an older female nurse came for you. Could the fact you dealt with an older female nurse instead of a 20-something nurse have been what made you feel comfortable with the situation.

Some men are more accepting & more at ease when the opposite gender caregiver is closer to their own age.

Regards,
NTT

 
At Monday, February 10, 2025 5:02:00 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

NTT, it's possible that her age was a factor. I think most guys find it more embarrassing being exposed to young women. In this case, I think it was more her attitude. I could tell that my exposure didn't mean anything to her. The interaction almost got off to a poor start when she asked me if I wanted a gown. It startled me and I responded "yes I do, I'm not an exhibitionist" but even then I knew for her it was just a practical question in that the gown would only provide cover as I walked about 6 feet from the changing room to the table. She took no offense at my response.

Once I was changed (in private in an adjoining room) and on the table she proceeds with the prep and we had a nice conversation. Turns out she is a travel nurse from the South. She was planning on giving up on the travel and returning home to her family and going back to working in pediatrics. I found it interesting that urology was not her area of interest.

So again, given my life experience, I just knew she had no interest at all in me or my exposure. There aren't many advantages to getting older, but for me I now realize that healthcare interactions might be a bit more comfortable than they were in past years.

 
At Thursday, February 13, 2025 12:28:00 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Something about what you and BRT said made me remember about a memory from recent years. I don't believe my coworkers got sexual gratification from seeing our elderly patients nude but they DID however get something out of exposing nude patients to other patients. One coworker insisted on leaving the door open in case somebody fell in the hallway we'd be able to hear them but this same coworker would leave the building at night for two or three hours I tried to protect the privacy but sometimes met with resistance. One coworker just told me No. She's just gonna see his ass I should have turned her in but I strongly suspect it wouldn't have been taken seriously anyway. If I'm spelling badly I'm sorry. I'll be getting cataract surgery in a couple of months JF

 
At Friday, February 14, 2025 2:03:00 PM, Blogger Biker said...

JF, were those co-workers very young? Most of the stories I have read about sexual improprieties directed at nursing home patients involved very young staff.

 
At Friday, February 14, 2025 2:37:00 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Different ages. Younger than me. JF

 
At Friday, February 14, 2025 2:51:00 PM, Anonymous Jeff said...

One of the worst experiences I’ve ever experienced was at the hands of a nurse in her fifties. Age doesn’t always matter. For me gender is the issue not the age. It is always possible that after years of being desensitized to exposing patients it becomes so commonplace that what can be perceived as professionalism is really complacency. When it comes to that kind of exposure to a woman I want it to be meaningful (like in a relationship) not meaningless. That is when I feel disrespected ,dehumanized and emasculated. I know everyone doesn’t feel that way but I have a long history of abuse by women in authority taking those kinds of liberties with me going back to childhood. For men they only have one option, let women expose and touch you intimately or forgo treatment

 
At Saturday, February 15, 2025 11:49:00 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Biker all different ages all younger than me JF

 
At Tuesday, February 18, 2025 5:13:00 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Greetings to All,
I have not contributed in a while and thought I would comment on the topic of whether or not the age of medical staff makes a difference. I am also more leery of younger staff and would be more comfortable with older nurses as I perceive the younger staff to be more immature and prone to the types of behaviors that I see illustrated on AllNurses or in Facebook memes (body shaming i.e. a scared turtle needing a catheter). I have a slight twist to Biker’s perception of whether the nurses were looking at him through a “sexual lens”. I have never felt that a woman is looking at me in a sexual way but I find that if I do not have any potential sexual interest in the nurse, I find the situation to be much less troublesome. I am more concerned with the intentional humiliation through unnecessary exposure.

I may be forced into coping in the near future as it turns out that my ESWL procedure to fragment my kidney stone did not work and a 6x5mm stone still exists. This may necessitate an ureteroscopy with laser lithotripsy which is the procedure that caused me the most anguish 11 years ago and brought me to this blog.

In a side note, I have been looking for volunteer opportunities in my community and have decided to apply at a local hospital. In addition to helping relieve work pressure on the nursing staff by performing menial tasks not requiring medical training, I hope to gain some insight into what actually happens in a medical environment from the inside and will be a “fly on the wall”. If I observe positive interactions affirming patient dignity, it might help lessen my concerns or at least make me feel that the bad behavior is an exception and not the rule. In addition to the menial tasks, I am thinking I could be available to lessen another modest man’s discomfort by being available to assist in dressing or other activities where exposure to women is embarrassing to the patient.
EM

 
At Wednesday, February 19, 2025 10:42:00 AM, Blogger Biker said...

Sounds like a great plan EM.

 
At Tuesday, February 25, 2025 6:30:00 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

TC


I couldn't help laughing months ago when one nber really expected Trumps medical czar to help with same gender nurses.

I am back here only directing my observations to any liberals on this site (probably none) as I've made it clear what I think of Trump supporters.

I've been suffering decades with chronic dizziness, not taken seriously by physicians, & now virtually going blind with photophobia. (I've had tinnitus & pressure in the right ear. A new term, vestibular migraines applies. I can't get my so called "expert" neurologist to keep the initial appointment, & tomorrow having an emergency eye exam. The overall shin, foot, back,thoracic radicular abdomen & ribcage pain was & is overwhelming.

Wednesday, February 19th at 05:25 am I made a 911that I don't remember, however it's 8 minute length does indicate a high level of cognition as I have & a total medical history rundown. I remember their doing a CT scan to see if I had a stroke, no concerns in my part over a stroke, my symptoms are decades in the making.

I blacked out until about 12pm, & was discharged from a Barstow hospital at 3pm. (This is the same hospital I had praised for the dignity shown me during my 04/03/23 knee scope,)

On February 21st at 3:06 pm the "ordering ER doc" got from LabCorp negative" fentanyl test results, which absolutely shocked me. Again, I was coherently advocating for myself & refused a urine test at which point the ER doc ordered to forcibly catheterized me if necessary --so the records indicate. If that happened, it would've erupted to extreme violence.

A 50 hour drug test precludes trying to "save my life" with a sense of urgency. The test was cynical & a result of profiling & stereotyping residents of this scummy "hi-desert". I don't socialize since leaving Malibu in 2001.

Blackened out or not, my moral compass is s constant. One & done inquiry about recreational drug use & take me at face value: no urine tests & treating me like a scumbag (the fact the test was negative vindicates me!)

The risk coordinator, going into the corporate protect mode, & reading from the records w/o interviewing the guilty parties, asserted 1) I wasn't catheterized 2) I wasn't urinated in the bathroom in privacy, not in room 4 where I was observed & supervised & it was a "clean collection" (by Google's definition means my genitals were washed in contrast to "midstream")

Questions arise. Was I told of their plan to catheterize me (probably not) was I scared into urinating (I suspect that aftee hours there I simply had to go) the catheterization orders were behind my back, but it's not a matter of "no catheterization? No harm, no foul" The threat in itself is a sexual assault)carried out it's sexual battery) & is causing me complete distress.

I called the city police & they laughed at me,& told me doctors are allowed to do anything they want in t4eating patients, & to consider civil suits.

I thought be if a doctor grabs you or rips off clothing you should call 911?



TC

 
At Wednesday, February 26, 2025 4:59:00 AM, Blogger Biker said...

Patients that present to the ER exhibiting what the ER staff see as indications of possible drug abuse or mental disorder, whether either turns out to be correct or not, are going to be subjected to whatever tests the medical staff deem necessary to figure out what is going on and to stabilize the patient. It is not always possible to know what the issue is beforehand, nor is every patient in a position to accurately convey what the problem is. Figuring it all out and doing what they have to do is the nature of ER's.

I've gone to the ER when experiencing severe vertigo-like episodes, and I know what the issue is given it's happened before, but the ER staff will still do scans & other tests to definitively rule out a stroke or heart issue. Despite what I pretty much know with certainty the problem is, the ER staff don't and do what they have to do to ensure they are treating the correct problem. Maybe one of these days it will be a stroke and their diligence will have paid off big time.

 
At Wednesday, February 26, 2025 5:17:00 AM, Blogger Biker said...

Out of curiosity, a question here for others as concerns sharing what you know with those who don't. A good friend developed a hernia. He is very fit and healthy and as such has had very little experience with the healthcare system. In speaking with him the day prior to his surgery it was evident to me that he didn't know much of anything about what was going to happen. He had met the surgeon and based on what he said I surmised that her physical exam at that appt. was somewhat embarrassing for him.

The surgery was to be at our small local hospital. I chose not to tell him that he'd be naked on the table as he was shaved with what most likely would be an all-female team observing, possibly including nursing students or kids shadowing the doctor, then prepped by that all-female crew, and then naked again on the table as he got cleaned up, and then likely with his gown being lifted by the female staff in post-op to check to be checking the wound site. I was also thinking he is a very well known person locally and the odds of no one in the OR knowing him was fairly remote. I thought best not to say anything as the surgery was necessary and adding to his nervousness would not serve any purpose. Is this how others have handled this kind of scenario?

 
At Wednesday, February 26, 2025 5:34:00 AM, Blogger Biker said...

I forgot to add one thing. Had I known my friend was going to be having this surgery back when he was 1st going to his primary care doctor, I would have suggested he consider going to one of the 2 large hospitals that we have just a couple hours away if he would prefer being more of an anonymous patient rather than a known local entity. At that point he could have asked to be referred to a surgeon at one of those other hospitals. Finding out a day before the surgery it was too late for that, hence no point in adding to any nervousness.

 
At Wednesday, February 26, 2025 10:43:00 AM, Anonymous Jeff said...

Biker I think not telling all the dirty little secrets to him was pure compassion on your part not to cause him any undue anxiety and fear. The concern is he finds out as he goes through the process on surgery day what he will ultimately endure and him wishing someone would have told him. That is the problem with the medical world is they intentionally avoid mentioning any of the more unpleasant parts thinking they are doing you a favor by taking the ambush approach when actually they could be doing you lasting harm emotionally which is what happened to me. That is up to them to make him aware not friends or family who are more familiar with how things go but as we all know that rarely happens.the fact that he was willing to see a female surgeon for this knowing the proximity to the genitals a hernia is he must have had some idea she would be looking at and poking around his genitals? I see your dilemma to tell or not to tell? I think you did the right thing! Quite often the shaving and prep is done after they knock you out and you have no knowledge of who did what and how many watched. If the shaving is done in pre op he will soon know how it sits him. I wish him all the best.

 
At Wednesday, February 26, 2025 6:15:00 PM, Blogger Biker said...

Jeff, he went to the surgeon that his primary sent him to. I don't think he knew it was a woman until he got there. If it were me my concern would more be the likely all-female OR staff that does the prep & cleanup and the fact that odds are I wouldn't be anonymous. When my wife was there for a kidney stone removal, one of her OR nurses was a neighbor. I would instead drive to the hospital I get all of my scheduled care at which is 1.5 hours away. I

 
At Wednesday, February 26, 2025 10:46:00 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...


TC replying to his own post here, & anxiously awaiting to hear from my highly esteemed PCP, who claims to be trying to get to the bott of the ER visit, & get records from last week,which they are reluctant to send her.

I am prepared to take some responsibility for what happened depending on the 911 tapes
.
That said, a conscious patient that refuses to give urine, & whose vitals are good, IS RESPONSIVE..An order to "catheterize if necessary" is simply a blustury retaliation, & a power grab in reaction to a patient exercising his right to say NO. That aspect is unforgivable. Catheterization is the worst thing that can happen to me. I'd pour kerosene all over myself & strike a match first. You all know how I ripped a Foley out after a carbon monoxide suicide attempt, & staff retaliated by tying me up for 6 days after. The write-up the board of health gave them was a just pittance of vindication. I don't regret it, healthcare workers are generally pigs, & that was a consummate gesture of contempt for them.

I'm not grateful to those assholes for "saving" my life, I intended to end* (especially the filthy gay, ER nurse who catheterized me, & later visited me in the ICU just to scrub my genitals, contaminating me with his filthy, while saying about the infection it's SOOO gross & disgusting (not as disgusting as he, the s with an ostensibly stereotypical lisp) already had a designated asian female ICU nurse on my genitals all the time, she knew how much I hated her!

*This isolated private place is a Godsend. I'll be able to cleanse myself of that F----'s sexual assault.

TC

 
At Thursday, February 27, 2025 12:27:00 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

https://archive.nytimes.com/cityroom.blogs.nytimes.com/2008/01/16/forced-rectal-exam-stirs-ethics-questions/

The ultimate medical "no means no" story. This can't be new in this group, though probably forgotten, & I've read tons of articles on this, but the victim had a forehead gash requiring four stitches. (Me too I'm 1961, but no DRE. Dr B can probably confirm that concerns about SCI aren't significant, unless the injury is at the base of the back of the skull.

This exam was as bogus as "catheterize him "if necessary".

Hilarious that when my PCP encouraged me to call 911 on 02/12/25, I emailed her this article & citing how stupid anyone is to go to an ER given "implied consent " meaning license to molest. Then on the 19th I really set myself up.

Sadly a jury of the victim's peers sided with the perp (or perv's more apt). That is the authoritative personality disorder. Brownshirt & Blackshirt types invariably siding with the experts against their own interests.

TC

 
At Thursday, February 27, 2025 12:41:00 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

TC

Again, Jennifer at Hospital "risk management" told me that restraining patients for unwanted catheters isn't their style, never, but what kind of idiot willingly accepts a catheter after refusing to urinate? Duh!

Jennifer told me that my urine was a "clean catch" done in privacy in the bathroom, but that, by definition, means midstream & washing the penis -- like I'd do that in my own

TC

 
At Thursday, February 27, 2025 11:31:00 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

TC

The facility is stonewalling my PCPs 02/19/25 STAT request for those ER records .

In the face of OCR complaints & lawsuit threats, they will alter the records.

11/07 I had an initial consult with a orro guy for bilateral knee scopes, he agreed no genital exposuse

The surgery scheduler got frustrated with the ordeal of arranging transportation, had concerns about "bilateral", my age & my solitary living status. A red flag on Dec 7 or 8, when in MyCHart the surgery venue was changed from the Palm Springs facility to the big hospital in Rancho Mirage.

The surgery schedulercwent behavior nd my back & r talked the doctor into moving the surgery from the Palm Springs facility to the big Rancho Mirage hospital for an overnight sta for a damn scope! I found that out 12/16/22 & went ballistic.

All sorts of complaints & threats, & the MtChart entries were altered. The change in venue deleted, the initial 11/07/22 consult was changed to look that I agreed to the overnight stay at Rancho Mirage from the start!

My PCP did her residency at that big hospital the altering of records didn't surprise her. I wish I had screenshots of before & after.

This is why I'm so violent in my dealings with medical people. They're scu & deserve no mercy!

 
At Thursday, February 27, 2025 1:40:00 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

TC

Also too those here using measured language to vaguely rationalizing the ER staff's mistreatment, please remember that fentanyl tests take more than 48 hours can't be relevant as an "emergency measure"! No one can argue they were saving my life when my vitals were good & I was walking around & soon to be discharged.

I now can surmise that the hospital is federally funded, & the feds wanted the fenyinyl test for demographical reasons, to keep an eye on the desert white trash & keep us in line.

I can qualify this. At a federally funded desert care network clinic for years at every intake, the young MAs gave me the third degree about tobacco, drugs & booze the way my mother did 50+ years ago. Given my health agenda was ignored, they only cared about federal $, I always got mad about it. it came to a head in 2019 when the NA asked me about recent sex, (I'm surprised my reaction didn't lead to a dismissal.


09/21/21 I saw a Dr A just for pattafay eye drops (now available over the counter) he tried to tell me that a blood panel (I hadn't had in 4 years) was "indicated" for that the eye drop contraindication. (My rheumatologist did lots of blood work that Dr A didn't know about)

I had to go to the ER for the eye drops she forgot to prescribe instead I got a requisition for everything, including an echocardiogram, a PSA, and Help C test. I only saw it when the results returned. I fired Dr A, voiced my resentment about the lifestyle implications of a hep C test (no needles, no tattoos, no blood transfusions & openly celibate for decades due to poor dating options. )

The clinic apologized for Dr A's aggressive hijacking, but rationalized that the NCDC wanted that info. I exploded, "WHERE IS IT TATTOOED ON MY BODY 'PROPERTY OF THE FEDERAL GOVERNMENT'? No I'm here as a medical consumer, have already given my social history just once, never again unless I seen it relevant

The 3.7 PSA wasn't a no harm no foul. It came back to bite me.

Going to another clinic & seeing PA C.M, was jumping from the frying pan into the fire. PA C.M told me I'd have to get my Cardura (ostensibly a hypertension drug with secondary urinary benefits) from a urologist. I was 65, no fear of cancer, no desire to live to 90, will never see a urologist again, & and she replied, "but your PSA is 3.7"

"BUT NOTHING....., as I continued on a vesuvian tirade that could be heard past the walls of the facility.

I returned to the first clinic to try out an NP back from maternity leave, & they told me I was Dr A's patient & couldn't see the NP. it took months of bellowing over the phone,"Dr A was fired immediately, I'm no less her property than I belong to the feds. " yeah I do a lot of bellowing because people aren't reasonable. It like being trapped in Green Acres.

TC

 
At Thursday, February 27, 2025 2:52:00 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

TC

How can anyone say that medical aren't evil & are drawn to the inoble craft by a desire to control others

Pigs! . https://www.cbsnews.com/news/anal-probes-enemas-ordered-after-nm-traffic-stop-lawsuit-alleges/

TC

 
At Thursday, February 27, 2025 3:43:00 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Addendum to the knee scope surgery it was around 11/07/22 fur the initial consult, & the problem was that theuvrefise to give a tine of the surgery until the day before. Impossible fur me.

 
At Thursday, February 27, 2025 5:39:00 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

TC.., or this!
https://www.nydailynews.com/2013/12/19/woman-faced-illegal-body-cavity-search-lawsuit/

None of those hospital adm

inistrators or workers were forced by border patrol & law enforcement to do that irredeemable act. So much for the Hippocratic Oath. A mockery. I'm not exaggerating when I say that a moral compass is usually absent on those chosing medicine (yeah some exceptions, my PCP, who even describes her colleagues as "God complexed.

 
At Thursday, February 27, 2025 6:32:00 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Very obvious but overlooked fact, that just because the healthcare Nazi's say they're not sexually aroused, that doesn't make forced exposure any less a sexual assault.

 
At Thursday, February 27, 2025 10:17:00 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

TC

Now on a roll & can't stop samctimoniously bashing the guilty.

Another evil thing that doctors do is while working for the SSA, examining turning down people who àre clearly disabled, & saying they can & should work. Even turning down down ALS patients, who die awaiting their hearing. (Please don't say "if not for all the fakers...," )

Even the doctors outside of the SSA who've treated me have asserted little wrong with me . A LLUH neurologist wouldn't sign my SSI papers & I had to rely on another neurologist, from India for that -- who pulled my pants down w/o warning or permission. I was too vulnerable to fight her.

I've fallen off the cliff & will see an NP @ LLUH. I'll have recent brain & back MRIs, but I wonder if I'll face the threat of her testing cremasteric &/or sacral reflexes . I don't want to impede her job, & my legs are weak, & lots of neuropathic pins & needles, but no saddle anesthesia & no incontinence . I'm still at a point where medical people still shock me with their brazenly aggressive, "birthright" for access to my private areas. Looking back at these last 3 years alone I simply can't believe it

TC.

 
At Saturday, March 01, 2025 12:32:00 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Biker,
Given the short time frame and the fact that he went ahead with the examination with a female surgeon, I think you did the right thing.

My first surgery (cervical spine) required a catheter per hospital policy and I wasn't particularly pleased about it but didn't really think about it much until two years later when I had my problem with the urology procedures and my learning of this blog. It was then that I got the surgical records from the spine surgery and was very upset to learn that there female nurses inserting the catheter as well as finding out that there were observers causing me more upset.

My point is that perhaps your friend will not be bothered enough to research what happens during surgical procedure. He could remain blissfully ignorant and therefore not be troubled or upset.

If he expresses embarrassment or discomfort after the fact, you could share your experience and knowledge and let him know how he might proceed for any future surgeries and how to lessen the discomfort.

EM

 
At Monday, March 03, 2025 12:05:00 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

TC here, & my inquiry is directed to Dr B

Question: what should be our greatest concerns patients face in terms of future of our healthcare"

ANSWER: "Corporatism! All medical facilities are either non profit, or profit, but all the same, corporations have the lawyers we don't have, they have the money we don't have, & they lobby politicians to make the rules of the game in their favor, not ours (the patients) .

With the political pendulum swinging so far to the Right, it can only get worse with all the activist Supreme Court decisions making it for & by the corporations, the little guy hopelessly manipulated."

So Dr B: Is this a direct answer to a direct question? (Regardless if you agree or disagree) Or is this answer somehow an unsuitabley inappropriate response?

TC (eagerly awaiting your answer

 
At Monday, March 03, 2025 8:38:00 AM, Blogger Maurice Bernstein, M.D. said...

To maintain the worthy title of this blog: PATIENT DIGNITY and all the interpretation and the readers personal definition of their dignity, I must
not set my own interpretation of my readers' wants. I must allow the
readers to set and express, if they wish to participate, their own
interpretations. This self-expression, hopefully, will maintain their own
individual dignity. ..Maurice.

 
At Monday, March 03, 2025 2:10:00 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...


TC post part 1

Dr B,. Please be more direct. My question to you is waa my answer inappropriate enough to warrant omitting.

That question about the direction healthcare is going (I am paraphrasing appeared in Quora' "Advocacy for Change" appeared early last Autumn.

I gave a pointed, straightforward legitimate, insightful answer, that the lack of healthcare quality & dignity is a mirror reflection of our corrupt, conservative political system.

I got a notice in big red letters, that my answer was deleted by an Advocacy for Change administrator. I had no recourse, no one to contact about the blatant dictatorial censorship.

NOTHING inappropriate I'm my answer. It was deleted by a conservative administrator, "Beverly" or "Cat" (the only two) who didn't want my informed, opinion put out there concerning the peril of my dignity (& theirs) being expressed. My post, putting the obvious blame on the Right, was censored by conservative Quora Advocacy for Change, because it was liberal & they didn't agree, & they had NO CHANCE of winning a debate with me.

I'm calling shenanigans there in Advocacy for a Change. It formerly had given me a literary safehaven, but ultimately proved a sham. In censoring my observations they dishonored themselves, and their posted complaints of hospital dignity assaults on their husbands has lost credence, & they commensurate lost my all respect.

Cat would be able to shed more light on this, but I extricated myself from that farcical sight because it suppresses intellectual honesty -- which I place above all.

That suppression,the censorship was the trigger behind my tirade in this group on 11/06/25 in which my claim of dumbasses in this butthurt domeone. (liberals are t dumbasses). It was the last straw when Trump's minions poured billions of dollars into "Swiftboating" Harris with LIES: negative ads about her giving free sex changes to prison inmates. That, along with gerrymandering & suppressing million of votes (that would've still gotten Harris elected) is a mirror reflection of how conservative Advocacy for a Change administrators operated by suppressing my very direct, accurate, truthful answer.

Cat, what say you as one of the administrators ? Was it you, or Beverly.

TC

 
At Monday, March 03, 2025 2:10:00 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

TC Part 2

Ive presented posts on forced, public school nudity for boys swimming only. All those law suits by decent parents to end the humiliation were shot down by conservative court rulings

When women (& men) are humiliated, sexual degraded & abused by cross gender cavity searches, it's always conservative courts shooting down the ACLU Lawsuits trying to end prison abuse. (25% of Alabama female inmates are raped by guards).

I don't understand this group's blatant cognizant dissonance here. Those looking to conservative corporatists to set limits on cross gender nursing. They only care about hospitals & prison facilities, making a buck by doing what's most expedient.

Conservative courts don't want consensual nudity, especially if it's pure & pleasurable. To them it must be agonizingly forced by clothed, authoritsrisnd in prisons, hospitals schools & airports. Hellish humiliation for the subjugated victim. That's the conservative way.

Wake up & smell the coffee. If you support right wing ideals & vote conservative, you get the opposite of what you want: a bizarro world.

TC

 
At Monday, March 03, 2025 3:28:00 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

TC here

I want to stipulate I was paraphrasing both the Quora question & answer now unavailable to me now, but the gist of things Iade clear. I pointed at conservative ideal of "corporate personjood" as the single impediment to quality,dignified healthcare & my post was censored because it's liberal

 
At Tuesday, March 04, 2025 7:58:00 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

TC, across my adult life federal administrations and congresses have gone back and forth between Republican and Democrat control. Both parties have plenty of their own judges out there that they try to get their cases heard before. No matter who has been in control, nothing has changed for patients as concerns the topics discussed here. Behind the scenes the R's & D's of Wall St and DC are all part of the same club that shares in the spoils of the system. Big pharma and big healthcare donate to both parties so as to have whoever wins beholding to them. There are no shining knights in top tier politics or corporate circles looking to address anything discussed here.

 
At Tuesday, March 04, 2025 4:58:00 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

To the unidentified person who addressed me I must remind you that Democrats stopped being liberals 50 years ago, largely thanks to supreme court rulings giving corporation "persinhood" & unlimited campaign dollars somehow "free speech"!

Please Mr or Ms anonymous get Democrat & Republican out if the liberal/conservative ideal equation. Ideals are ideals

Eisenhower was a republican, but his moral compass & ideals were quite liberal.

Google the 1956 republican platform & it reads like a Marxist manifesto )in the eyes of brainwashed conservatives )

Read Eisenhower's letter to his brother (in which he expressed concern for the end of social security & farm aid; or his cross if I run speech, or his departing mikitay industrial complex speech.

This has been an erosion of human right & middle class so slow, so incremental that you guys aren't noticed

I do concur with you that the way things have become, it's a hopeless fight & too late!

 
At Tuesday, March 04, 2025 5:13:00 PM, Anonymous Jeff said...

I’m not sure who wrote this but you are 100% correct . I have lived through multiple administrations (many of them two term)and seen both parties control congress and have seen no movement on either side that benefits my needs. So endlessly ranting about one party or the other is of no benefit (at least not on this site)The fact is if you throw enough money at either party you will get what you want or maybe you could save some money if throw it directly at the people involved in your immediate care and watch how fast they find ways to accommodate. Now all I need to do is find the money 💰 LOL

 
At Tuesday, March 04, 2025 5:15:00 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

TC last remark to Anonymous by TC

Well my PCP has gained me. All she had to do was call the hospital & talk to the attending ER physicians immediate supervisor, & ask "why the needless threat of a catheterization" on my patient!

She's been very sweet & patronizing in the portal, but the lack of action has prompted me to bombarded her staff with calls -- which she asked me to stop doing -- bother her on the portal instead.

After asserting that the catheterization order seemed unecessary & bothered her, she finally told me she want call the hospital & make any inquiries about the abuse I faced on 02/19/25

It really takes someone lacking a soul, having a thick skin, who can look away from all the abuse of her colleagues, & throw away her moral compass.

She really is a phoney, baloney patronizing wolf in sheep's clothing. She's one of them .

She failed to do the RIGHT THING which was to call the ER physician or her supervisor. It would've saved a lot of strife.

I've cancelled all my appointments with specialists, I give up. No more MRIs or EMGs. It's simply a matter of cleaning up my place (very hard to do with my neuropathy & severe pain) kick back & watch movies for a while

I can't fire Bisnchi, she will be instrumental inkeeping me a little more comfortable for a few months. In the end she wanted nt lunch ok back with an ounce of survivors guilt. She doesn't don't get to where she was by doing what's right, she got to her level of status nu "playing the game".

TC

 
At Tuesday, March 04, 2025 5:39:00 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

TC responding again

But it goes "back & forth" (as you aptly put it) because Wall Street & the corporations have pulling the strings of both parties, with the democrats totally selling out the middle class & the little guy.

DOES THUS JUSTIFY THE CENSORSHIP on the part of Quora iconservatives to omit my direct answer, BECAUSE THEY DISAGREE & can't win a debate with me?)

(Try listening to real liberal talk radio on Thom Hartman on TuneIn.. Give it a try before Trump pulls it off the air. That's the conservative way. Suppress the opposing view as Advocacy fur a Change did to me in Quora.

TC

 
At Tuesday, March 04, 2025 9:40:00 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

You don't know what your talking about. You show partial comprehension, but it gets all muddled up. You sound like JR & I'm not going to keep going around in circles with you, just because you won't educate yourself politically.

As for Going around & around: I keep pointing out that you are obfuscating matters by invoking the concept of "parties" (reps & dems) Get parties out of the equation! As a senator, Obama voted in phase with republicans -- that house negro was not a liberal!

The assertion that both "parties" have a fair share of judges is made up! (only JR sneaks in that BS thinking she can fool us) NO truth to that.& you're not fooling anyone. The whole country has gone batcrazy to the extreme Right. Law enforcement is right wing, military is right wing, most of our senators & congressmen (dem & rep) are right wing; our courts are mostly right wing. Ultimately the corrupt, immoral, activist supreme court has had the final word. It's hopeless.

It's simple, & you keep muddying up the waters to make them appear deep, & trying to sound to sound erudite you only trip over yourself in the process.

ITS SIMPLE: LIBERAL= COMMON MAN

CONSERVATIVE = BIG MONEY BIG BUSINESS.

"corporate personhood " & unlimited political campaign dollars contributions is STRICTLY a CONSERVATIVE IDEAL. Not a liberal ideal. FDR fought it, his supreme court fought it (with a conservative Justice Warren siding with them) & it wasn't until the 1971 Powell memoirs were written as a blueprint for this corporate hijacking of our democracy. Nixon rewarded Powell with an appointment to the Supreme Court,& they've ultimately made irreparable damage

You cantbfight health facilities because theyve lobbied for laws that favor the (make lawsuits impossible to prove and win (political) they have lawyers (that we can't afford) up the yin yang, & that's political.

I Grant you that patient dignity wasn't good during the New Deal eraTl truth is that if not the politpical pendulum ng by now you could sue to get female nurses away from your husband's dick, balls & rectum.

I only debate people who can make sensem. You're out of your league here



TC

 
At Tuesday, March 04, 2025 10:16:00 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...


JR you actually make my case for me: about "big pharma & big healthcare" donating to both parties. That's what I mean when I write you show "spot on" insight at first.

But then things get all muddled up, because you have no comprehension, no knowledge of the Supreme Court decisions that allow "big pharma & big healthcare", to.msnipulate us. IDEOLOGICALLY, these are right wing decisions by activist Supreme Courts that HATE DEMOCRACY & WANT A PLUTOCRACY:

You're committing a great sin of ommision by overlooking,. & grossly underestimating the impact of these three destructive Supreme Court decisions:

1st National Bank vs Bellotti

Buckley vs Vejello

Citizens United. (The final nail in the coffin of our democracy in 2010)

JR you have one advantage here over me, & that is most of the people in this group get their political propaganda from the same sources you do (Fox News,whatever) & are grossly misinformed by the "big businesses" that control them.

TC

 
At Wednesday, March 05, 2025 12:50:00 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Im reference to my PCPs negligence in light of my crisis, adamantly failing to call the BCH ER supervisor to ask what happened. This, after promising to get to the bottom of it. to ask, "what did you do to TC on 02/19" I just gave her a tongue lashing, , coldly playimg the game as she's trained, as a money making shill who overly oloverlook the the bad things other physician do to other people. I called her a moral coward & phoney baloney

TC

 
At Wednesday, March 05, 2025 4:26:00 AM, Blogger Biker said...

Oops. That was me who did the response to TC on Tuesday.

 

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